If a man makes a vow to the Lord, he shall not break his word.  - Num 30:3

Reflection. Ideally vows are unconditionally binding.  However, for the most part, vows are conditional promises.  For example, “I will marry you for life, provided you don’t beat me every day.”

Prayer. Dear Lord, give me the wisdom to be non-judgmental and merciful in judging myself and others.