If a man makes a vow to the Lord, he shall not break his word.  - Num 30:3

Reflection.  Ideally vows are unconditionally binding.  However, for the most part, vows are conditional promises.  For example:  ”I will marry you for life, provided you don’t beat me every day.”

Prayer.  Dear Lord, give me the wisdom to be non-judgmental and merciful in judging myself and others.